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- The Life Of A Soldier After Battlefield: Do we understand soldiers’ post war mental health and wellness issues?Are you aware that Vietnam vets and a large population of the military who served in both past and recent wars are suffering from what American Psychiatric Association (APA) classify in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) … Continue reading → […]
- We Are As Good As The Generation We Leave Behind: Lessons from the youth crisis in London.Every generation is as good as the one that generation leaves behind. Recent crisis in London raise serious question older citizens of this generation must be asking one another and that question is: Are chickens coming home to roost? One … Continue reading → […]
- Societal Bias on People Suffering from The disease of AddictionIn most cases when a loved one comes home from a physician and announces he or she is diagnosed with cancer or other serious illness such as heart, liver, lungs or kidney disorder, most members of the family and friends … Continue reading → […]
- The Power of Internal Optimism: A coach’s majestic calming of troubled water.As much as I personally rooted for my home team USA to win the 2011 Women World Cup Soccer, victory could not have been sweeter for Japan, a country that have very minimal to celebrate and cheer for in the … Continue reading → […]
- Adolescent Rite of Passage: A developmental treasure.Rite of passage is an important integration of mind, body spirit during crucial developmental stages of every human being. Stages during which every entity of a human being—the mind, body and spirit yearn for integration and unity. Developmental stages usually … Continue reading → […]
The Blessings of Failures: Mind-Body-Spirit Connection.
Every single one of us has a purpose in life. Many of us have good idea what this purpose is. Some of us do not. Not knowing what your life purpose is does not change the fact that you have one. What is so amazing about life is that the universe has a way of directing us to our life purpose. All we have to do is pay attention to our lives’ twists and turns.
Many of us who have a sense of our life purpose think there is only way of getting there. Straight line is not always the shortest distance as we learned in Geometry. There are so many ways to get to our lives’ destination. Usually, all of us start in a straight line direction. Along the way our ship got stirred in different direction/s other than the one we thought is the only direction. Many of us usually view these twists and turns of our ship as failure.
There is no failure. What we have in pursuit of our dreams and life purpose is redirection. The ship of life takes different directions and makes several stops. You must be mindful there is always a bag of blessings to be picked up at each stop. There is also always a skill/s to be perfected and life lessons to be learned at each stop. These skill/s and lessons are so crucial and very much needed in strengthening and molding us for success to come. Make no mistake about this, you short change yourself if you waste your time worrying about these stops. You have also short changed yourself if you quit and call your experience a failure or call yourself a failure because you do not like how long the trip takes and how many stops along the way there is to make.
Every successful person failed so many times. If you want to succeed you must risk failing. If you doubt it look at how many years Michael Jordan and John Elway played plaid in their respective leagues before they won championships. Do you realize Babe Ruth struck out 2000 times for every I000 homeruns. Bill Belichick had a losing record almost every where he coached before he started winning with New England Patriots. Do you realize also how many times President Lincoln failed in life and defeated in politics before he was elected the President?
You must not quit. Many people who quit came very close to victory and success before they gave up. Perseverance is a virtue you must hold very there to your soul. Feel passionate about your dream/s. Go after it with everything in you! Do not be intimidated and afraid of failing! Success is the price for failing.
By Dr Chris O’Banye
