Life presents so many challenges to us. The truth is regardless how difficult these challenges are, every single challenge life presents to us builds character, makes us tougher, wiser and richer. Many times these challenges force us to either fight for our blessings or get out of way. The difference between the winners of life challenges and the losers is that the winner seeks the wisdom in every life challenge and understands there are many blessings in disguise.  The winner also understands the power to win at all time resides in us. Winners understand we have the power to change any situation that does not make us happy. He/s places no blame on anything or anybody; points no finger; demands for no special treatments; gets up at each life stumble, dusts him or herself up and keep moving forward. The winner always keeps an eye on a hand/s he/s can pull up along the way.

The loser on the other hand, refuses to face life’s challenges, sees minimal blessings in disguise of life challenges, and will not put up a fight to challenge life. He/s cries, complains, and blames everybody and every circumstance. The loser point fingers at everyone and everything but to himself or herself. He/s falls and sits right where he/s is. The loser refuses to get up. He/s makes demands for things he/s has not earned. The loser would never ask for what he/s can do for anyone. A loser simply takes.

Few years ago while I was in adult chemical dependence and addiction in-patients treatment Center, there was a knock at my office door this lovely morning. I opened the door and there was my boss and a young lady in a wheel chair. My boss introduced the young lady to me and stated: “This is Dr…… She is a Psychiatric resident doctor and would be spending some months with us. I felt her first few weeks with you would be a very strong and good start for her.” I could not help to reflect and admire the strength and drive in this lady. I could not help also to vision the challenges this lady had to endure to be in my office that morning, taken into account her physical challenges.  Her strength and determination to challenge life took me to a place in my soul where I felt the need to celebrate this lady, Stevie Wonder, late Ray Charles and people like these human beings who reached the pinnacle of life destroying all sorts of life challenges along their ways despite enormous physical challenges that would be ordinarily quite acceptable for excuses.

Each time I read about the lives of some of the most successful human beings, I come away with strong reinforcing validation of my belief in the amazing inherent power every soul possess from our creator. Power so great some books of wisdom characterize as capable of moving mountain. Life most costly lesson many of us never learn is that we give up this power once we begin to believe our faith lies in the hands of others, our elected official, government and some entity other than ourselves.

For so many years, Blacks gave away their inherent power by blaming and pointing fingers at Whites and every other conceivable circumstance. Majority of Blacks who rose up the pinnacle of life neglected the fact that success is a group blessings and not an individual achievement. You cannot look at a tree and say—what a forest. Today, the Whites have fallen into the very same trap by blaming Blacks, immigrants, elected officials, the government, Chinese, the Japanese, everybody and their dogs.  The tide of life is so difficult to turn once you give this power up.  This is as true for individuals as it is for nations and group of people. The true lesson today however is that the human race has melted into one. Challenge yourself to pull yourself up and also pull someone with you regardless the color of the skin.  Ask what you can do for yourself and others. One tree does not make a forest.

By Dr Chris O’Banye

http://www.iiwih.org

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